Parent Child Relationship: How to Improve?
What is parent child relationship? Before understanding this, we need to understand the definition, importance, problems and types of relationship. The state of being connected is relationship.
That connection or relation can be healthy relationship or toxic one depending on different factors.
Let us discuss it in detail.
Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship
Sometimes you as parents or partners have unhealthy relationships with your child or partner but don’t know about it. Here, we discuss some warning signs of unwholesome relationships
First sign of unhealthy relationship is trying to have full control on your child or partner. No one likes to be controlled and handled like a robot, even you. Do that thing with others which you like for yourself.
Second sign of unhealthy relationship is insulting behavior. Sometimes, you unintentionally and unknowingly have insulting style and people living with you dislike this. On getting opportunity, your child or partner may leave you.
Third sign that people have regarding unhealthy relationship, is physical abuse. As a parent or partner, if you destroy, hit or push or even beat your child or partner, relationship is damaged to any extent.
Signs of a Healthy Relationship
For building a healthy relationship, it is conditional to know some basics.
Let’s see the basics together.
Role of Trust
First and the most important element for building and maintaining healthy relationship is trust between parents and children or between partners. Trust is the soul of any true and healthy relationship but parent child relationship is very different from other relationships because it’s the most important and strongest relationship.
So, parents must effort to remain in the close circle of their children.
Parents should give children treats, play with them, listen to them and also teach them good habits and provide them what they need. Spend more quality time with their children and don’t ignore them.
Role of Open Communication
After trust, comes effective and open communication. This is the dilemma of this age that people are not ready to listen to each other which generates further issues in relationship. If your child or partner is not easy to talk with you, how can she solve the problems? A big challenge is that only seniors can create friendly environment of open communication. So, parents should step ahead and start open discussion with children and in the family.
Respecting individuality, compromising on different challenges, honesty in dealings, giving due respect along with love and sincerity are some other features of a healthy relationship.
Parent Child Relationship problems
Parents sometimes do mistakes in raising their kids because they don’t have well balanced parent child relationship, which creates misunderstandings.
Now let’s understand about some of the parent child relationship problems.
- Parents do not paying enough attention to their kids.
- They do not spend enough time with their kids.
- Parents being rude and angry all the time with their kids.
- Disrespecting partner and kids destroys parent child relationship.
- With negativity and bad habits, parents also affect parent child relationship.
Importance of Parent Child Relationship
The relation between parents and children should be very respectful, trustful and friendly. The importance of parent child relationship is very essential to be known by parents as well as by children. This improves the understanding, trust and respect for each other which is the main key of strong parent child relationship.
Who is Responsible for Parent Child Relationship?
Both parents and children are responsible for parent child relationship. But, the parents are more responsible as compared to children. Parents can learn how to make their parent child relationship healthy with love, care and learning some techniques to make their children trust them. It will also increase children’s self-esteem and confidence.
They can also teach them, can make their relationship stronger by showing love and affection, which will make children feel they are important for their parents.
Types of Parent Child Relationship
There are different types of relationships between parent and child but the relationship is made by parents as children are young and they don’t know how to build strong relationship so they act how they are treated, some are described below:
Secure relationship means a very strong relationship and child trusts her parents and depends on them. Child is happy near their parents and cries when they are gone but can trust on other close relations. Parents give what child needs on time and show her love and children also listen and show love.
Avoidant relationship is when child does not actually depend on parents, Child will not cry if parents are far gone but child will learn ways to be happy on his own. This happens because parents do not show enough love and attention towards child and child starts to feel to be ignored which leads her not to depend on parents. These kids could be aggressive to other kids and may like to play alone.
Ambivalent relationship is likely to happen when parents do not give attention when needed and give extra care and attention when not needed, so it makes child to act very differently as she would be more emotional and act younger and cry and find ways to make their parents listen and gain their attention.
Disorganized relationship is when child is not sure about the reaction of parents so she starts to predict what would be parents’ reaction. Child does those acts again and again which make them center of attention. Disorganized kids act bossy and also act like elders also disrespecting others. This happens when parents respond rarely to their children’s needs, and do not show love and affection to their children.
Parent Child Relationship Quotes
Here are some beautiful quotes on parent child relationship which can help parents and children to feel motivated about their relationship.
“Children learn more from what you are than what you teach them.”
“A father’s goodness is higher than the mountain, a mother’s goodness deeper than the sea.”- Japanese proverb
“Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.” – Robert Fulghum
“Parents are the ultimate role models for children. Every word, every movement, and action effects. No other person or outside force has a greater influence on a child than a parent.” – Bob Keeshan
“By loving them for more than their abilities we show our children that they are much more than the sum of their accomplishments.”- Eileen Kennedy-Moore
“We never know the love of a parent till we become parents ourselves.”
“First your parents, they give you your life, but then they try to give you their life.” ― Chuck Palahniuk
“Children are our second chance to have a great parent-child relationship.” ―Laura Schlessinger
“Appreciate your parents; you never know what sacrifices they made for you.”
“I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life.” ― Maya Angelou
By Ajmal Dass Jaipal
Co-Author Joshua Shalim